Why feedback is important
on Sep 04 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodsonOne social scientist that used to work at the largest online dating service was recently quoted in a newspaper interview as being frustrated with the way couples are matched by the online dating services. Although he worked on the mainframe algorithms to create the initial matches, he said that none of the online dating services incorporate feedback from the men and women who did not find love. He felt that knowing why they didn’t meet anyone special to date was important to consider if he would ever be able to hone the process to produce more accurate results. Read More
Good date manners
on Apr 18 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodsonDemonstrating poor manners on a first date is like answering your cell phone during a job interview; you may think you’re so valuable that others should overlook your little peccadilloes, but that pile of quirks may be higher than you think — and impossible to ignore. “No matter how times change, what works in relationships remains surprisingly the same,” says Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. “Although behaving badly seems to be a trend in movies and TV these days, rude and irresponsible behavior is deadly to relationships. Continuing to see someone who is rude, thoughtless, or narcissistic is simply asking for a relationship problem.” Read More
Happy Easter!
on Apr 04 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodsonThis blog is about prejudging people. Until you have met a person with a completely open heart and mind, you truly have no idea who they are or what they are about. Many people (men and women) have a list of ‘must haves’ in a potential partner. They call it having standards. This list prevents them from meeting and getting to know some truly wonderful, amazing and in many cases very attractive people. I’m not against having a list and having standards is an absolute must. Make the list – it’s important. Also be truly open minded. Don’t pass up the chance to meet a potentially great person because of details that won’t stand the test of time. And when you meet someone, keep your heart and mind truly open and alert. Happy dating!
Great dates – take a walk
on Mar 26 in General tagged by AWoodsonWith Maine’s legendary spring weather almost upon us, what better way to get to know someone new in your life that combining the beautiful Maine outdoors, some exercise and time to talk and get to know each other.
Great Dates – Wine tastings around town
on Mar 07 in General tagged by AWoodsonLooking for something fun and unusual to do on a date? Check out some of the wine tastings around town. One the last Thursday of every month Browne Trading on Commercial Street hosts a wine tasting – and with their large selection of wines there’s always something interesting. Browne Trading Market boasts an extensive selection of wines, not only for the serious collector, but for those who enjoy a nice bottle with dinner every night.
The Wine Cellar in Yarmouth hosts a wine tasting every third Thursday of the month, often pairing wines with appetizers from Maine Food producers.
And this is just two regular events – The Salt Exchange on Commercial Street hosts regular wine tastings, and there are often events at local gourmet grocers such as Rosemont Market. Be adventurous, try something new. When you attend a wine tasting with a date, you have something to talk about while you’re getting to know each other – the wine!
Worth Watching
on Feb 22 in General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodsonHelen Fisher’s fascinating talk on human emotions. It’s well worth the time, it’s thought provoking, making you think about relationships in a different light.
Dating dares you need to take – #1
on Feb 14 in General, Women tagged by AWoodson1. Seriously Cut Back Your Calls to Him – Women have a certain comfort level with chitchatting multiple times a day about little things. You’d think nothing of calling a friend to discuss a shirt you found on sale, the phenomenally annoying thing your mom said, and so on. Accordingly, you’d establish the same relaxed rapport with a guy you care about. But here’s where you have to take a counterintuitive step and back away. In fact, kind of disappear a bit. “Checking in frequently with your female friends brings you closer, but paradoxically, it can drive a guy away,” says psychotherapist Patricia Covalt, Ph.D., author of What Smart Couples Know. That’s because men use the phone only when they need to get or give information. If you’re calling to say hi and start a conversation about the minutia of your life because, to you, that’s what a relationship is about, he may jump to the conclusion that you’re being needy. It’s just a difference in nature. And hey, so maybe there is a teensy bit of neediness behind your wanting to touch base for no reason once or twice a day. “Women tend to get anxious if they don’t hear from their guy, so they call him, seeking the reassurance that things are all right between them,” says Covalt. Try this and you’ll see how well it works: When his phone is not ringing with updates from you, it makes him wonder what you’re doing. Then, when he calls you to check in, he’s more excited and invested in the conversation, and his bond to you tightens.
Great date place – Inn on Peaks Sunday Brunch
on Jan 31 in General, Restaurants, coffee shops and more tagged by AWoodsonThis is a great date place because it’s fun and unusual. Taking the ferry out to Peaks Island in the dead of winter is not for the faint at heart, however it is a bit of an adventure. Dress warmly for the ride over – once you arrive expect a light, airy and lively atmosphere. The Inn on Peaks Island puts on a brunch the last Sunday of the month. Expect a wide selection of buffet items along with omelet and roast beef carving stations. The buffet items include Ceasar Salad, standard breakfast items, asian, seafood and even lasagna. There’s a bar if you feel like a mimosa or bloody mary and while you’re enjoying your buffet – you’ll be entertained by a reggae band.
Make reservations, you’ll need them!
http://www.innonpeaks.com/
Take your time
on Jan 20 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodsonNow that you’ve gone on a date with someone, the hard part is over and now you can slip into just being a couple, right? Wrong. Every date you go on offers the unknown opportunity of a new relationship. It also offers the chance that this one isn’t the one. Many people don’t want to go through ‘finding someone’ so they try to make every person they go out with into ‘the one’. No matter how hard you try to make it work, it’s like trying to swim upstream, it’s going to be tough going and when you’re working hard to make someone fit into your idea of the right relationship – you’re not free to explore other opportunities that might be better for you. So take your time and really listen to your intuition and above all – you should be having fun!
Jealousy – The Monster
on Jan 08 in General tagged by AWoodsonBy Helen Fisher, Phd
Your sweetheart calls you by another’s name. His eyes linger too long on your best friend. He talks with excitement about a girl at work. And the fire catches. Jealousy—that sickening combination of possessiveness, suspicion, rage, and humiliation—can overtake your mind and threaten your very core as you contemplate your rival.
The green-eyed monster, as Shakespeare called it, can camp in your head at any time during a relationship: when you are madly in love, when you are snugly attached, even when you dislike your partner. Neither gender is routinely more jealous—although women are more willing to work to win back a lover, while men tend to flaunt their money and status and are more likely to walk out to protect their self-esteem or save face. Read More
Next great date place – Soakology
on Dec 23 in General, Restaurants, coffee shops and more tagged by AWoodsonSoakology is a great place to meet a date for a cup of tea or a snack. It’s quiet, quaint and even though it’s right in the middle of downtown Portland, you’ll feel like you’re off the beaten path. They have a few tables in the front of the store, and a four stool bar toward the back. While you’re waiting for your order they serve you a welcome tea in a tiny japanese teacup nestled on a tiny leaf tray. The day I was there the welcome tea was Moroccan Mint.
There are several varieties of Steamers – both caffeinated and decaf. I had the Roasted Mate Latte which was Roasted Yerba Mate steamed with milk and honey. The roasted flavor of the Yerba Mate combined with the milk and honey gave the drink a delicious light cocoa flavor. The place was busy with people coming and going for appointments. Read More