About 52.6 percent of the men in the study lied about their height as did 39 percent of the women. 64.1 percent of women lied about their weight. Age in profiles is also suspect, since 24.3 percent of men and 13.1 percent of women lied about their age. The study found specifically that men are more likely to misrepresent personal assets, relationship goals, personal interests and personal attributes whereas women are more likely to misrepresent weight. The study was conducted on 5020 individuals.

Never before has the dating world been so handy for married men and women looking to have a fling says Beatrize Avila Mileham who studied online infidelity for the Universirty of Florida. Eighty three percent of the study participants did not consider themselves to be cheating, just flirting. Countering this, therapists around the country report online sexual activity to be a major cause of marital problems.

When people talk about what they want in life, being in a fabulous, loving relationship is usually at the top of the list.

There is good news. We, the people of the world, are now entering a new paradigm. The old ways of being in a relationship are no longer working. Now we are ready to release our old fears and stop old patterns that caused great pain in the past and prevented us from having the soul-satisfying relationships that we dreamed of.

In the past, the woundedness in us was attracted to the woundedness of others. People would think, “If I take care of their wounds, they will take care of my wounds and I will become whole.” We found it easier to focus on the problems of others rather than addressing own problems. These old patterns keep each partner from being nurtured. These old patterns stopped us from healing ourselves. Placing our energies on the other, stopped us from loving ourselves enough–enough to have miracles within our selves and in our relationship.

As the consciousness of all humankind evolves, we are now taking responsibility to develop our own emotional maturity. We are now willing to release false beliefs, release our old fears and angers. We are now ready to integrate those fragmented aspects of ourselves so that we become whole and holy. We are ready to address our old wounds incurred in the past, particularly our childhood. We are ready to care for our own needs. We are now ready to love ourselves enough.

With vibrational energies on the earth becoming elevated, now is the time to come together as mature beings, coming together because of choice rather than from need. Our relationships can now be much more satisfying than what we had ever dreamed of in the past. As independent, self assured people, we come together as whole individuals. We can now work together as a team, giving each other balance and boundaries. We can now live our authenticity and allow the other to do the same– that is what we can now look forward to in our new relationships–the new paradigm.

About Sally Herr
For the past 16 years Sally has guided people like you safely and easily into the life of their dreams. Call today for your free 15-minute phone consultation.
Sally Herr is the owner of New Era Therapies in Portland, Maine. She is a Certified Speech-Language Pathologist, Registered CranioSacral Therapist®, Polarity Practitioner and Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner. Sally serves on the Board of Directors of the Repatterning Practitioners Association.
Contact information: www.sallyherr.com sally@maine.rr.com (207)879-6007

Sponsored by Patriot Mortgage and The Woodfords Club

Saturday July 24
9am-4pm

Join us for a day of fun with 30 vendors, Spa Day and fabulous door prizes given away every hour. Don’t miss the first annual Diva Day. Affinity will have a booth – stop by!

179 Woodford Street
Portland, Maine

Live in the Now
If you both click when you meet, it’s tempting to leap into the future mentally — could they be The One? Stop right there and rein in your expectations or you won’t have fun.

“If you place too much importance on the encounter, you’ll spend the whole evening evaluating how it’s going and stressing about whether you’ll see the person again,” explains Sheenah Hankin, PhD, a psychotherapist in New York and author of Complete Confidence. “This prevents you from fully experiencing what’s happening in the present.” That also means you’re not as engaged — or engaging — as you could be.

Remind yourself that it’s only one evening, and then just relax and let go. “A first date is an experiment,” says Tiger. “Adopt the laissez-faire attitude that it might work out or it might not.” And, hey, even if the sparks ultimately aren’t there, the night’s not a wash. You’ll probably come away with new insight or an interesting story to add to your repertoire. And most importantly – you will have had fun and enjoyed yourself.

You’re invited to an informational Open House for men interested in joining. Ask questions, talk to current members and meet the matchmaker. Find out how Affinity is going to work for you!

RSVP to 221-6131 or email

The Woodfords Club
179 Woodfords St
Portland, ME 04103
Sunday, June 27, 2010
6:00PM-8:00PM

Be my guest… find out more about Affinity and how it works. Ask questions, enjoy refreshments and find out if Affinity, Maine’s Matchmaker is right for you!

People in loving relationships live longer, have fewer heart attacks and lower cancer rates.

* Marry well.
* Have more sex.
* Find romance in everyday life.

Evidence that love helps keep us healthy and increases longevity is not a secret. It’s the connection one feels to their partner and the expression of love that increases ones sense of well being that is essential to a healthy life. Researchers have even found that hugging may dramatically increase your health status since hugging releases the hormone, oxytocin.

Sources: U.S. National Library of Medicine, The Canadian Dental Hygienists Association, Tufts University of Human Nutrition Research Cener on Aging, UK Food Guide, U.S. National Institue of Aging, Health Canada.

So come by Cinque Terre and explore Italy’s wine culture on Sunday May 16 and help fight hunger.

This is a great date place because it’s cozy and intimate, has delicious food and a friendly and inviting waitstaff. If you’ve never tried Mediterranean food, this would be a good place to start due to the variety of offerings. Starters include a mediterranean plate with seasoned and fried cauliflower and eggplant, hummus, falafel and hot sauce. It was all delicious, especially the cauliflower and eggplant and the dish was delivered quickly. The starter menu also includes salads, bruchetta and stuffed grape leaves and the evening we were there an appetizer of mussels and french bread.

For entrees you can choose from sandwiches and wraps or kebobs or brick oven personal thin crust pizzas. The sandwich menu includes fish tacos and beef shawarma as well as the falafel standby. Kebob offerings include chicken, lamb, grilled atlantic salmon and blackened almond encrusted haddock. We were told by the waitstaff that the chef/owner picks out and purchases his seafood selections daily.

They’re also open for brunch and are super reasonably priced. Enjoy!

The Olive Cafe

With that in mind, here are some pointers on good dating manners for the hopelessly unmannered, or for anyone who could use some refreshers.

Don’t Forget the Basics

Fox reminds us that the most important manners are usually the simplest; they’re the ones that they tried to get in our heads as children. Here are some of the biggies:

1. Be on time!
2. Be thoughtful of the other person’s feelings, space and property.
3. Don’t make sarcastic comments that degrade anyone else.
4. Don’t boast.
5. Always use your best table manners.
6. Be a sincere listener; ask questions of the other person, just nothing too personal.
7. Keep your word. If you don’t plan to call, don’t say that you will.
8. Don’t talk about how much something costs.
9. Never gossip or repeat a rumor.
10. Go out of your way to put your date at ease.
11. Always have cash or a credit card with you, even if you don’t expect to pay.
12. Say please, thank you and you’re welcome.

If you’d like to be treated like an adult, it’s best to act like one, too. Even if the date doesn’t go particularly well, at least you can’t blame it on your own carelessness.
by Mark Amundsen