Why feedback is important
on Sep 04 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodsonOne social scientist that used to work at the largest online dating service was recently quoted in a newspaper interview as being frustrated with the way couples are matched by the online dating services. Although he worked on the mainframe algorithms to create the initial matches, he said that none of the online dating services incorporate feedback from the men and women who did not find love. He felt that knowing why they didn’t meet anyone special to date was important to consider if he would ever be able to hone the process to produce more accurate results. Read More
A great reason to go to a matchmaker
on Aug 15 in General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodsonOnline daters can be misleading from the get go research by Nicole Ellison of Michigan State University shows.
About 52.6 percent of the men in the study lied about their height as did 39 percent of the women. 64.1 percent of women lied about their weight. Age in profiles is also suspect, since 24.3 percent of men and 13.1 percent of women lied about their age. The study found specifically that men are more likely to misrepresent personal assets, relationship goals, personal interests and personal attributes whereas women are more likely to misrepresent weight. The study was conducted on 5020 individuals. Read More
Creating Your Dream Relationship
on Aug 01 in General tagged by AWoodsonby Sally Herr
When people talk about what they want in life, being in a fabulous, loving relationship is usually at the top of the list.
There is good news. We, the people of the world, are now entering a new paradigm. The old ways of being in a relationship are no longer working. Now we are ready to release our old fears and stop old patterns that caused great pain in the past and prevented us from having the soul-satisfying relationships that we dreamed of.
In the past, the woundedness in us was attracted to the woundedness of others. People would think, “If I take care of their wounds, they will take care of my wounds and I will become whole.” We found it easier to focus on the problems of others rather than addressing own problems. These old patterns keep each partner from being nurtured. These old patterns stopped us from healing ourselves. Placing our energies on the other, stopped us from loving ourselves enough–enough to have miracles within our selves and in our relationship. Read More
Diva Day!
on Jul 23 in General tagged by AWoodsonDiva Day at The Woodfords Club
Sponsored by Patriot Mortgage and The Woodfords Club
Saturday July 24
9am-4pm
Join us for a day of fun with 30 vendors, Spa Day and fabulous door prizes given away every hour. Don’t miss the first annual Diva Day. Affinity will have a booth – stop by!
179 Woodford Street
Portland, Maine
How to have a great first date
on Jul 05 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodson“The best strategy for a great first date is to go into it with the goal of simply enjoying yourself, instead of harboring an agenda to win the person over,” says Lionel Tiger, Ph.D., a Charles Darwin professor of anthropology at Rutgers University and author of The Decline of Males. “That way, you’ll also come across as tenacious and carefree, which are intrinsically attractive qualities.”
Live in the Now
If you both click when you meet, it’s tempting to leap into the future mentally — could they be The One? Stop right there and rein in your expectations or you won’t have fun.
“If you place too much importance on the encounter, you’ll spend the whole evening evaluating how it’s going and stressing about whether you’ll see the person again,” explains Sheenah Hankin, PhD, a psychotherapist in New York and author of Complete Confidence. “This prevents you from fully experiencing what’s happening in the present.” That also means you’re not as engaged — or engaging — as you could be.
Remind yourself that it’s only one evening, and then just relax and let go. “A first date is an experiment,” says Tiger. “Adopt the laissez-faire attitude that it might work out or it might not.” And, hey, even if the sparks ultimately aren’t there, the night’s not a wash. You’ll probably come away with new insight or an interesting story to add to your repertoire. And most importantly – you will have had fun and enjoyed yourself.
Thanks
on Jun 30 in General tagged by AWoodsonTo everyone who attended Sunday’s Open House. It was great to meet everyone and now you’re going to spend your summer and fall meeting people instead of just wanting to!
Men’s Open House
on Jun 17 in General tagged by AWoodsonOpen House
You’re invited to an informational Open House for men interested in joining. Ask questions, talk to current members and meet the matchmaker. Find out how Affinity is going to work for you!
RSVP to 221-6131 or email
The Woodfords Club
179 Woodfords St
Portland, ME 04103
Sunday, June 27, 2010
6:00PM-8:00PM
Be my guest… find out more about Affinity and how it works. Ask questions, enjoy refreshments and find out if Affinity, Maine’s Matchmaker is right for you!
Live a longer, healthier life
on May 31 in General tagged by AWoodsonLove
People in loving relationships live longer, have fewer heart attacks and lower cancer rates.
* Marry well.
* Have more sex.
* Find romance in everyday life.
Evidence that love helps keep us healthy and increases longevity is not a secret. It’s the connection one feels to their partner and the expression of love that increases ones sense of well being that is essential to a healthy life. Researchers have even found that hugging may dramatically increase your health status since hugging releases the hormone, oxytocin.
Sources: U.S. National Library of Medicine, The Canadian Dental Hygienists Association, Tufts University of Human Nutrition Research Cener on Aging, UK Food Guide, U.S. National Institue of Aging, Health Canada.
Charity Italian Wine Tasting, May 16, 3-6pm at Cinque Terre
on May 09 in General, Restaurants, coffee shops and more tagged by AWoodson$20 for 20 fine Italian wines
Sunday May 16 will be a charity wine tasting raising money for Cultivating Community. This is the second in what will be a bi-monthly charity wine tasting series. Five small distributors will put together a comprehensive tasting of Italian wines. Tickets will be just $20 to taste through 20 fine wines from all over Italy. Shown will be a super Tuscan from Andrea Franchetti, a rosso di Montalcino, a Falaghina, and a Nero d’Avola. The Super Tuscan alone is about $30 retail so between the wines and the food Cinque Terre will be putting out, you’re really getting a good deal. At the same time all the proceeds go to a very worthwhile charity that combats hunger by growing local produce and working with children to build confidence and a connection to the land. It’s a pretty brilliant recipe. Check it out here: website
So come by Cinque Terre and explore Italy’s wine culture on Sunday May 16 and help fight hunger.
Great date places continued
on May 02 in General, Restaurants, coffee shops and more tagged by AWoodsonThe Olive Cafe – Portland, Maine
This is a great date place because it’s cozy and intimate, has delicious food and a friendly and inviting waitstaff. If you’ve never tried Mediterranean food, this would be a good place to start due to the variety of offerings. Starters include a mediterranean plate with seasoned and fried cauliflower and eggplant, hummus, falafel and hot sauce. It was all delicious, especially the cauliflower and eggplant and the dish was delivered quickly. The starter menu also includes salads, bruchetta and stuffed grape leaves and the evening we were there an appetizer of mussels and french bread. Read More