Worth Watching
on Feb 22 in General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodsonHelen Fisher’s fascinating talk on human emotions. It’s well worth the time, it’s thought provoking, making you think about relationships in a different light.
Dating dares you need to take – #1
on Feb 14 in General, Women tagged by AWoodson1. Seriously Cut Back Your Calls to Him – Women have a certain comfort level with chitchatting multiple times a day about little things. You’d think nothing of calling a friend to discuss a shirt you found on sale, the phenomenally annoying thing your mom said, and so on. Accordingly, you’d establish the same relaxed rapport with a guy you care about. But here’s where you have to take a counterintuitive step and back away. In fact, kind of disappear a bit. “Checking in frequently with your female friends brings you closer, but paradoxically, it can drive a guy away,” says psychotherapist Patricia Covalt, Ph.D., author of What Smart Couples Know. That’s because men use the phone only when they need to get or give information. If you’re calling to say hi and start a conversation about the minutia of your life because, to you, that’s what a relationship is about, he may jump to the conclusion that you’re being needy. It’s just a difference in nature. And hey, so maybe there is a teensy bit of neediness behind your wanting to touch base for no reason once or twice a day. “Women tend to get anxious if they don’t hear from their guy, so they call him, seeking the reassurance that things are all right between them,” says Covalt. Try this and you’ll see how well it works: When his phone is not ringing with updates from you, it makes him wonder what you’re doing. Then, when he calls you to check in, he’s more excited and invested in the conversation, and his bond to you tightens.