Enrich your life

on Nov 28 in General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodson

Here’s an important distinction for all men and women: Dating someone will and should enrich your already happy and full life. It won’t fix existing problems or eliminate feelings of loneliness or sadness if you have underlying issues causing those feelings.

Leaning on someone who cares about you when you’ve had a bad day is totally acceptable (it comes with the territory in a healthy relationship). However, if you feel lonely, bored or down, don’t fall into the trap of calling, emailing, or texting your girlfriend/boyfriend incessantly. If you do, they will start to feel the crushing pressure of being responsible for your happiness. It’s up to you to make yourself whole and happy.

Women, give thanks for men

on Nov 25 in General, Women tagged by AWoodson

OK, so we have our faults: Forgetting anniversaries, forgetting to put the seat down, and a whole bunch of other important things I’m forgetting. But before you go wishing for a world devoid of us big dumb apes, take a minute to reflect on all the joy we bring to your world. Like duct tape, dudes have all kinds of helpful uses, like… Read More

Men, give thanks for women

on Nov 25 in General, Men tagged by AWoodson

Sure, we can be a pain in the butt sometimes. Sure, there’s the nagging, the nosiness, the PMS mood swings and those easily injured feelings. But guys, think for a moment about all the wonderful things we ladies do. From the pains we take to be aesthetically pleasing to how we kiss it and make it all better, we women do rock. Let us count the ways! Read More

Trust

on Nov 20 in General tagged by AWoodson

If you’re dating someone and they ask the following a red flag should go up:

“Where were you last night?”
“Why didn’t you pick up your phone?”
“You’re going out with the guys/girls again?”
“Are any men/women going to be at this ‘work party?’”

So here’s a good rule of thumb: If you trust the person you’re dating, then make the decision to act like you do. Don’t give them the third degree because if they’re smart and secure they’ll get tired of it. And if you don’t have trust, interrogating won’t fix the situation. Decide whether:
1. You have trust issues (and start working on them) or
2. The person you’re dating is untrustworthy (in that case move on and find someone worthy of your trust).

Getting “comfortable” too quickly

on Nov 12 in General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodson

Being single can be lonely at times. It makes sense that if you meet someone you’re drawn to that you would want to be around them and make them a part of your life. However, getting to know one another – the time where you take things a little bit slow and learn about the other person’s values, perspective on life etc – is not only exciting but important. Take the time for romance and mystery, don’t rush – and please don’t skip it entirely! Read More

Don’t be scary

on Nov 06 in First Dates, General tagged by AWoodson

Want to scare someone away in the first few dates? Whether the person you’re dating is a man or woman say these words if you want to come on too strong too fast:
1. Baby
2. Biological clock
3. Pregnant
The only time you can bring up kids in the first few dates is if one of you already has one or if someone else’s is behaving so badly you have to leave the movie theater.

After the person is comfortable with you go ahead and talk about your nieces and nephews. Your date will know by then you’re a proud relative or caring person, not putting pressure on them to get involved and have kids quick.

Body Language

on Nov 04 in General tagged by AWoodson

I’m going to devote some blog space today to a tip from the author of Love Signals, David B. Givens, PhD because it’s a good one. Mention the words sharing and feelings in the same sentence and most guys — yes, even if they’re super comfortable with you — will run to the nearest sports bar, where they can avoid using modern language entirely. “Men are taught to stifle emotion, so they often have trouble verbalizing their thoughts and feelings,” explains psychologist Alon Gratch, Ph.D., author of If Men Could Talk. But lucky for you, even if your guy won’t open up, his mug will give him away. “The face is considered the most expressive body part because its muscles are linked to the emotional centers in the brain,” says anthropologist David B. Givens, Ph.D., author of Love Signals. “The slightest shift in mood registers as a specific facial gesture, making it extremely difficult to conceal one’s true feelings.” Read More