A meditation on relationship

on Oct 31 in General tagged by AWoodson

Author Amy Bloom describes marriage in this way. I think it aptly describes relationships as well. Do you see any of your past relationships in her writing? It’s important to be your true self from the very beginning when you’re dating and not who you think the other person is looking for. Let the other person see who you really are and use your intuition about who they are. Do you truly enjoy their company – laugh, smile and enjoy life when you’re spending time together?
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Single parent difficult dating decisions

on Oct 27 in Dating With Kids, General tagged by AWoodson

Making the decision to have sex with someone you’re dating can be complicated enough for some people. Add being a single parent to the equation and it gets even more complicated. To be considered:

Think long and hard about each person you decide to introduce to your children. Just because you’ve made the choice to have sex with that person does not mean you automatically have to incorporate them into your children’s lives or even introduce them. Consider carefully having your dates ‘sleepover’. Your children will eventually make the connection that date sleepovers mean sex. If you have multiple casual relationships that involve sleepovers, your children will learn from you that casual sex with many partners is acceptable. Read More

Where to go?

on Oct 25 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodson

Start out by doing things and going places that allow you the opportunity to get to know the person. Meet for coffee, a meal or a walk the first few dates. At the beginning there may be a few awkward silences. Use these silences as an opportunity to ask open ended questions, not questions that require only ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answers. You’ll want to learn about your dates goals, dreams, life experiences and expectations. All of these things will lead to you knowing more about their attitude toward life, their values and objectives. Read More

What determines self worth?

on Oct 21 in General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodson

Is it determined by how much stuff you’ve been able to accumulate? Or by how flat your abs are? Is it determined by who others think you are?

Dating takes confidence. Your confidence is intrinsically tied to your sense of self worth. Knowing who you truly are and authentically living it every day contributes to how you feel about yourself. Ask yourself some questions: What are your top values and how do you live them? Are you pretending to be someone else in order to fit in or please others? Whose company do you enjoy and is that who you spend your time with? Read More

Stop wasting your time

on Oct 20 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodson

The internet has changed many things and one of those is that people now expect that matchmaking services should be free or very cheap. My on line competitors are the discount retailers of the dating world. They operate on volume. Success is possible with them, but after the monthly membership fee, hours spent on line with ‘unknowns’, and experiences ranging from comedic to catastrophic, what is the true cost of a match with potential!? Read More

You deserve the best

on Oct 18 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodson

People are so busy these days that it’s plain difficult to meet someone special. For years I have heard people talking about their disillusionment with the most common approach: on line dating. I believed there needed to be an alternative.

The internet as a matchmaker is inherently flawed because it is unregulated. I firmly believe that people deserve something better… actually much better. They deserve a safe, simple, positive and affordable dating alternative… Read More

Why matchmaking?

on Oct 13 in General tagged by AWoodson

For years, when friends or family talked about wanting to meet someone, I always thought, ‘what can I do… how can I help?’ Recently a smart, attractive client sat in my office during the initial interview and talked about going for a drive by himself on a Sunday because the weather was too beautiful not to. He explained that he enjoyed the entire day until he was driving home. It hit him as he was pulling in to make dinner alone how much he wanted someone to share that day with. His pain was evident – that’s what inspires me to do this. People deserve a way to meet likeminded individuals that’s safe, simple, affordable and with a high probability of a positive experience.

Whoever loves much does much -Thomas a Kempis

Spending the holidays alone

on Oct 11 in General tagged by AWoodson

Use this time as an opportunity to recharge and revitalize, do things for yourself. And do things differently. Make a list of things you’ve never done before, simple items like trying a new food, taking a new way home from work, Add a new step to your grooming ritual. Even better: makeover part of yourself like getting your hair cut a completely different way. Small steps can make a big difference…
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Getting back out there

on Oct 04 in First Dates, General, Men, Women tagged by AWoodson

If you haven’t gone on a date for awhile and are afraid to get back out there: Do what makes you feel best about yourself: Get active immediately. Start exercising, anything from going to the gym to meeting a neighbor for walks or a run. The more confident you are about yourself, the more attractive you’ll be. Radiating happiness with your life as it is attracts people to you.

Avoid the pitfalls: Each person you meet brings you closer to who you’re looking for. You may not meet them on your first date, but you will meet them and need to think of every date as a part of the process: what did the experience show you about what you need? What did the man/woman do or not do that you liked (or didn’t)? Often times, we’re too focused on our list of requirements — he has to be tall, she has to be 5 years younger — and that list hinders us from even getting to know some great people. The right person for you rarely fits your “list” exactly, and when a person does have those attributes, we talk ourselves into staying with them even if our intuition tells us something isn’t right… Read More